10 Things I’ve Learned After Planning 500 Weddings

Tips from Maria, seasoned wedding planner directly for YOU

1. Everyone has an OPINION
Daytime wedding, nighttime wedding, summer or winter, catering or restaurant… Everyone in your family (and your partner’s) will chip in. It’ll be mostly coming from a place of love, but let them gently realise that the only people who have to decide is you and your fiancee.

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2. Decisions, decisions…
To make a plan, you need to define what you like. Open the web and start checking sites like Pinterest, WeddingWire, Best Destination Wedding and Weddings In Playa – these sites have the ability to transport you to thousands of weddings in 5 minutes. Take notes, be bold, have fun!

 

3. It’s important to get on the same page as your families before planning anything
Details that might seem obvious, like who’s paying for it, what the budget will be, and what the priorities are. Very important, if your parents pay; make them feel important. Everyone loves and greets appreciation!

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4. Yes, it’s YOUR day, but it’s also important to your whole family
When starting the planning process, fighting for stuff that is only important to one, can end rather unpleasantly, sometimes even with tears. Understand that the day is a dream come true not just for you, but also for your parents, so if we need to have a religious ceremony in order for them to be happy, we might be able to come to a happy medium. Pick your fights!

 

5. There will be some conflicts between the 2 of you and that’s OK
To you, the song you pick for your first dance is super important. For him, it’s all about what’s going to be served at the open bar – you have different priorities!

Take a deep breath and just remember that you’re both under intense pressure trying to plan the perfect day, and that you’re always going to be different people with different ideas. Talk about everything, explain why you’re passionate about certain things, and maybe take a whole day with each other to just hang out and forget about the wedding so you can enjoy each other’s company instead. It sounds like a self-help book, but I promise that it works.

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6. Some guests are a headache
The majority of people understand the unwritten rules and know that they have to RSVP on time. Others are going to tell you last minute that they can’t make it, making you end up footing the food and drink bill.

It happens at every wedding. It’s normal to get stressed and frustrated so do your best to spot the unwanted and try to be on top of it. Either you accept that they might not come or misbehave or you don’t invite them. Easy!

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7. Dress shopping can be tough!!
And it can be a nightmare because, contrary to popular belief, no dress is going to fit you like Cinderella’s slipper right out of the box. There are a number of designs and designers you’ll love, so don’t worry. Start shopping early!
8. Be aware of the weather conditions
Beach weddings generally mean a lot of wind: I also love candles but unless it’s a quiet evening they won’t stay lit.

Same for your hairdo: if the wind blows, an updo is best…

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9. EAT
Ask the catering service or restaurant manager to assign someone to follow you around.

Everyone will tell you that you will be going to be too busy to eat or drink on your wedding day because you’re going to be running around at the reception. Get ready! Assign a waiter to cater to both of you and all will be well!

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10. ENJOY YOURSELF
It’s true that the day is going to fly by, but it’s really going to fly by if you’re not having fun. Don’t worry about it if someone doesn’t look comfortable or if your cousin is having a fight with his girlfriend. Enjoy your party because it goes fast.

What’s truly important is the fact that you’re marrying the love of your life.

 

11! Wedding planners are your best friends
It’s an extra cost that will hinder your budget BUT they have done this a million times before, so by giving them the reigns you can actually enjoy your own wedding. It is very easy to hire people to manage timing, amount of alcohol per person, and negotiations with the florist and every one else.

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Crucial Wedding Tips

13 Tips from your Pro Wedding Planners

You can thank us later!

 

1. Try On Your Dress

Try on your wedding dress 3 days before your wedding and check how to open it to go to wee and dance – the best way to wee is facing the wall and lifting the anterior part.

 

2. Appoint A Best Friend

You don’t want to be bothered with a million little things on your wedding day, and believe me, there will BE so appoint a best friend help out. You’ll need someone to hold onto your phone and field the texts, they can let you know if something truly disastrous is happening that needs your immediate attention and also FEED you before the wedding. With all the morning jitters, you’re likely to forget. And you definitely don’t want to put any champagne into your system without having a snack first!

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3. Shoes!

You will need 3 pairs of shoes: slippers for the getting ready, high heels or cool shoes for the ceremony and easy comfy shoes for the DANCE!

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4. Break In Your Shoes

Soften up your wedding shoes before the big day without getting them dirty – see this great post from Wedding Party

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5. Introduce Everybody

Arrange for your wedding party to meet and get to know each other before the wedding. It’ s likely they all are friends but, just in case, why not have dinner or drinks with all of them 1 month before and enjoy the pleasure of their company while they mingle?

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6. Cream Or Fondant?

Don’t make the mistake of picking the wrong icing for you cake – buttercream, ganache, whipped cream, pastry creams (sometimes called creme patissiere), and cream cheese icings can melt so go for rolled fondant and marzipan-iced cakes if you’re having a hot, outdoor wedding.

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7. Save The Date

Got a wedding website? Make sure to include a call to action reminding to guests to Save The Date. (don’t have a wedding website? speak to Pixel Fields)

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8. Wedding Photos

Noon is harsh so don’t schedule your photo shoot to early – the best light is 2 hours before sunset, so enjoy it!

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9. Clean Your Rings

Have your ring professionally cleaned – your jeweller will most likely do it for virtually nothing and  you can enjoy a prismatic extra sparkly ring for your photos.

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10. Guestbook

Don’t just go for the standard guestbook, be creative and come up with something different. Some of the coolest we’ve seen are wishes on rocks, shells, painted on a canvas or even sung accompanied by a recorder! There are lots of great ideas on Pinterest.

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11. The List

It’s most important that you put together a forget-me-not bag or list of items to take with you like the marriage certificate, rings, contact lenses/glasses, everything you can think of. Let your mother and/or sister know about it too in case you partied a bit too much!

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12. Learn How To Say NO!

Lean how to respectfully say NO, because that is something you will need at some point in your planning (your mom’s old wedding dress or your uncle singing might be great… or not). Learn how to be firm and clear on what you won’t do and with love and compassion learn to say ‘NO thanks’.

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13. Last But Not Least

THIS IS A PARTY and the most important thing is to enjoy yourself and have fun. Life is too short (and your wedding day will fly by) to hold a grudge or be angry because the candles didn’t stay lit so dance, drink and be merry!

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